Author: Chris Watts, Will Writer, Fern Wills & LPAs
Last verified: 15 August 2025 (England & Wales)
Attorneys and deputies can make small, affordable gifts on “customary occasions” (like birthdays or weddings) to people connected with the donor — but only if it’s reasonable and in the person’s best interests.
Always check capacity first and involve the person as much as possible when deciding. Keep clear records showing how you considered their wishes, needs, and finances.
There is a narrow, judge-made “de minimis” tolerance for very small gifts in larger estates, often mapped to IHT allowances — but it only applies if strict conditions are met. When in doubt, apply to court.New in 2025: OPG updated guidance on family care payments (payments to relatives providing care). This is separate from “gifts” and has its own rules — many cases still need court approval.
We recently helped “Mr B’s” daughter, appointed as his Property & Financial Affairs attorney. Mr B had always given £50 birthday gifts to his three grandchildren and donated £100 each Christmas to a local hospice. After a dementia diagnosis, his daughter wanted to keep these traditions going.
We reviewed his capacity, estate, and care projections. The gifts were customary, connected, and affordable; they also matched his past pattern. We set up a simple gift log and added a short note in his care file. No court application was needed — and his daughter felt confident she was doing the right thing, the right way.
1) Can we use the £3,000 IHT annual exemption without going to court?
Sometimes — but only where the de minimis conditions apply (typically a larger estate, modest values, affordability, and no evidence the donor would object). This approach stems from case law and OPG commentary, not statute, so be cautious and document your reasoning. If unsure, apply.
2) What counts as a “customary occasion”?
Births, birthdays, weddings/civil partnerships, major religious or cultural festivals, and donations to charities the person supports. Even then, the amount must be reasonable for that person’s circumstances.
3) Can I accept a gift from the donor as their attorney?
Only if it fits the customary occasion + connection + reasonable test. Gifts to yourself are high-risk for conflicts; if there’s any doubt, seek an independent view and apply to court.
4) Do “maintenance” payments to family members count as gifts?
Not necessarily. Courts have distinguished maintenance/needs from “gifts.” However, it’s a grey area and often requires court authority unless clearly within accepted parameters. See also 2025 OPG guidance on family care payments.
5) What happens if an unauthorised gift is made?
OPG can investigate and ask you to repay funds, seek your removal, require you to apply for retrospective approval, or refer matters to the police in serious cases.
6) Which forms and rules apply if I need to go to court?
Use COP1 to start proceedings. See Court of Protection Rules 2017, PD 9A (the application form) and PD 9D (short procedure for routine/small applications by existing attorneys/deputies).
The law gives attorneys and deputies only limited powers to gift — and that’s for good reason. Even small gifts can cause disputes or drain funds needed for future care.👉 If in doubt, don’t give it — document it, and ask for help.
At Fern Wills & LPAs, we specialise in helping families balance generosity with protection. We’ll help you check what’s allowed, prepare a simple gift log, and apply to the Court of Protection if needed. That way you can continue family traditions without putting yourself at risk.
📞 Next step: If you’re unsure whether a gift is safe or court-approved, get in touch. One conversation now could save you — and your family — serious trouble later.